- a person's sense of self-esteem or self-importance. ("he needed a boost to his ego") [synonyms: self-esteem, self-importance, self-worth, self-respect, self-conceit, self-image, self-confidence; amour propre]
- [Psychoanalysis] the part of the mind that mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and a sense of personal identity.
- [Philosophy] (in metaphysics) a conscious thinking subject.
etymology: early 19th century: from Latin, literally ĎIí.
The ego is a cultural language-based construct, a matrix of belief systems — memes that one has chosen to "buy into" (believe strongly) — which has convinced the Physical Mind that it is in charge of making things happen (4th-dimensional causality), when in fact that is the (5th-dimensional) Higher Mind's function. The ego is like a mask the Physical Mind wears. The ego is what one has been told one is — or, more specifically, what one has chosen to believe one is.
In other words, the ego is a construct or mind entity that emotionally attaches itself to ideas, creating an unreal identity, thus distancing itself further and further from the here and now, thus getting lost in the world of 4D manifestation and rarely receptive to the 5D world of the Higher Mind that transmits information to the 4D Physical Mind in the form we call imagination.
When giving up ego resistance, thus surrendering to the natural self (the state of unimpaired communication between the Physical Mind and the Higher Mind), one experiences automatic synchronicity, to a degree beyond that which the 4D Physical Mind is capable of imagining.
Ego vs. Physical Mind
The Physical Mind is the 4th-dimensional aspect of the Human being, which has a personality structure (ego) that has chosen to buy into (or has been programmed with, i.e. tricked into believing against his own interest) particular belief systems and definitions of reality that create unnecessary struggle — i.e. misalignment with the natural self, which is the experience of disconnection from the higher-frequency (higher-dimensional) aspects of self.
The difference between the two, and the reason why the distinction is so important, is that the Physical Mind is not inherently, biologically, mechanically, ontologically limited by the 4th-dimensional constraints its ego construct believes it is. Making a clear definitional distinction between the ego and the Physical Mind creates thus a kind of stepping stone. The Physical Mind is the structure, the ego is the content.
The ego is the thinking "I" subject... if there were such a thing. The 4th-dimensional constraints the ego feels bound to are entirely a product of the belief systems and definitions of that particular ego entity.
As Bashar explains, the Physical Mind's plans (i.e. the ego's plans) need to be rudimentary, sketchy, basic, simplistic, because it is the (5th-dimensional) Higher Mind that is reflecting one of an infinite number of possible 4th-dimensionally-causal paths for the (4th-dimensional) Physical Mind to experience, based on the vibrational resonance of one's state of being (i.e. 5th-dimensional causality, also known as Law of Attraction).
Chaos is what weíve lost touch with. This is why it is given a bad name. It is feared by the dominant archetype of our world, which is Ego, which clenches because its existence is defined in terms of control.
Negative ego vs. positive ego
Once we have conceptually distinguished the Physical Mind structure and the ego construct that exists within it, the division of ego into positive and negative may be less necessary/relevant, because the Physical Mind idea can be seen to embody the positive aspects of the ego, and thus all that is left is the "negative ego", which can then be made synonymous with (the unmodernized definitions/conceptualizations of) ego, as a permission slip to help transcend the ego by means of "defining it out of existence" (i.e. out of one's experience).
In other words, the proposed modernized definition is this:
- Ego = negative ego = service-to-self (STS)
- Physical Mind = positive ego = service-to-others (STO)
With these operational definitions, the ego is seen as self-serving light, while the Physical Mind is intrinsically service-to-self, before the ego "program" grows and metastasizes during the formative years.
In The Biggest Picture we therefore use the term "ego" to refer to the "negative ego", with the Physical Mind neologism being a modernized definition of (the positive polarities of) "ego".
This idea is similar to the definitional distinction made by Natural Law between force and violence, which thus "defines out of existence" the idea of "legitimate uses of violence".
Positive ego (the logical Physical Mind, unshackled from its programming) is thus free to be in a state of balance with the heart-mind:
Bashar - Head Mind vs. Heart Mind
[Published on Jun 19, 2013] It doesn't need to be more complicated than listening to your heart and following it. Because your heart has memory. Your heart has wisdom. Your heart has consciousness. Your heart actually thinks. And when you can develop a balanced dialogue between the heart-mind and the head-mind, that's when everything falls into alignment. But you see, the idea of the way you're actually designed is, your head-mind needs to actually follow your heart-mind, not the other way around. They need to work in concert, but the head needs to take its cue from the heart. Not contradict it and try to run everything — that's negative ego. When it understands that the heart is actually the center of your being for a reason! Not the head. But because your world has been taught to think that "what's on the top is best", instead of what's in the center. When you understand it's what's in the center that counts, you will then reverse the upside-down relationship you have between your heart and your minds... And you will move forward harmoniously.
The chess game analogy
- the Higher Mind is analogous to the player
- the Template-level reality is analogous to the chess board
- the Collective Automatic Mind is analogous to the general rules of the game
- the Individual Automatic Mind is analogous to the individual rules of the chess piece
- the Physical Mind is analogous to the point of view and behavior/choices of the chess piece
- the Physical Mind's ego construct is analogous to unnecessary handicaps placed on the chess piece, to the point that it believes it is the player and thus has to "win" the game (make things happen) on its own
As the ego develops in the Physical Mind, natural synchronicity becomes infrequent "coincidence".
The ego and the brain
The brain is the receiver of higher-frequency (higher-dimensional) energy transmitted/radiated from the (5th-dimensional) Higher Mind, which is electrochemically translated into the (4th-dimensional) perception that the Physical Mind experiences, but first filtered through the belief system of the ego/personality construct of the (4th-dimensional) Physical Mind. Beliefs and definitions literally change the neurological pathways of the brain. The resonance of the beliefs and definitions — the meaning that is being assigned, i.e. the energy you are putting out — is what determines what (5th-dimensional, not 4th-dimensional) reality elements will be reflected back by the Higher Mind mirror.
Ego vs. pride
Researcher Mateo Sol, in his article Iím Nobody, Who Are You?, makes a definitional distinction between ego and pride:
For as long as I can remember, I could clearly see two large forces move within me when it came to motivating me to act in life. My ego or my pride. They are sometimes mistakenly used synonymously, but from a young age I liked redefining words in order to have some sort of way to express myself more concretely. My understanding of these words is:
Pride: Finding self-worth and respect in yourself based on your achievements and your self-growth in comparison to your former self.
Ego: Finding self-worth and respect in yourself based on the opinion, respect and comparisons others make of you.
I believe this is the general understanding that - at least intuitively - we all have of these words.
Ego and Self Esteem
Our minds are so accustomed to gaining self-esteem from others that we find this perfectly normal. Even though this is normal, it isn't necessarily healthy. Gaining our self esteem from others becomes an addiction, we constantly need doses of ego-boost to feel special. Look through the following examples, and try to see whether you can relate to any. Many of these are unhealthy and ingrained habits we tend to have:
These are just some of the subtle ways we try to find our self esteem and self worth through our 'somebodies' ego. And it starts forming very early on in our life. You must have seen young children shouting "look mum!Look at me!" trying to gain their parents attention when their parents are preoccupied talking to someone or doing something else.
Being A Somebody
So consider this...Who exactly are you in this life? Your name? Prestige? Religion? Country? Respectability? Money? Power? Scholarship? This whole accumulation becomes your identity, your 'somebody', and it gives you a false sense of being. This is the ego. All these things are ephemeral, they are relative, one day the crowd finds value in what you have to offer, and the next day they'll get sick of you. If you find your self worth from being intelligent, funny or pretty what happens if you're put into a room with the funniest, prettiest or most intelligent people in the world? your ego identity is completely shattered. Just look at many child film stars or music boy bands. Is it very wise to find your own self worth from something that is so relative and fluctuates so much?
If you are a 'nobody' you don't know who you are and it's frightening - for this you have to have a lot of courage. Ego's allow you to become a 'somebody'. When you become a nobody the question of "If I dont know who I am, then what am I doing here?" is replied with "whatever I'm doing here becomes meaningless". The reaction then is to find out who you are by identifying yourself with as much as possible. You make yourself as known to others and as special as possible, because if others know who you are, then you'll feel that you know who you are as well. This is basically what egotism is. Ever wondered why there are wars, business monopolies, social corruption, human abuse and exploitation? A 'nobody' out there is trying to become a 'somebody'.
Pride and Self Love
Ego is a by-product of others opinions. These opinions are given to you - but something that is dependent on others can also be taken away from you. Pride is a totally different phenomenon. It doesn't require others validation, you become enough unto yourself, you have the unique individual dignity you were born with - your pride comes from inside your world. Pride has nothing to do with competing like ego does. Ego's force you to compete over outside things in the world that others value, e.g. who has the most money. You can't compete with Pride however - that would be like comparing who's the best at being Matthew M___? or Arthur Smith? There's only one person, one individual unreliant on others. The only thing you can do is compete with yourself, taking pride, and feeling dignity and respect with how much you've grown spiritually, physically, emotionally or mentally from your past former self.
Many people including religious collectives condemn self love as if it were the same as egotism. Their reasoning seems to make sense on the surface: "If you love yourself you will become an egotist, a narcissist". This is not true however. A person who loves themselves wants to become the best they can be, they want to explore themselves and in doing so they find out how harmful gaining their self worth from their ego can be. If you truly love yourself you want to take care of yourself. It's only self-hating people that harm themselves physically or mentally.
Summing up these two definitions:
- Ego = extrinsic motivation = critic/deceiver = consuming for expected reward = dopaminergic/catecholaminergic stimulation
- Pride = intrinsic motivation = positive parents = creating for unknown reward = serotonergic/tryptaminergic stimulation
Now, of course, one could perhaps develop the idea of ego-based "pride", so these definitions may still be somewhat on shaky ground. But pride will get one very far... just look at Donald Trump, a non-politician taking over the Republican party under the noses of the fear-driven utterly incompetent money-controlled puppets that have come to dominate American politics after its "misadventures" in overseas wars and ever-increasingly unaccountable corporate growth.
A man is like a fraction whose numerator is what he is and whose denominator is what he thinks of himself. The larger the denominator, the smaller the fraction.
Half the harm that is done in this world is due to people who want to feel important. They donít mean to do harm. But the harm does not interest them. Or they do not see it, or they justify it. Because they are absorbed in the endless struggle to think well of themselves.
Too many people spend money they haven't earned, to buy things they don't want, to impress people they don't like.
The world is changed not by the self-regarding, but by men and women prepared to make fools of themselves.
In order to understand the interrelation of truth and falsehood in life, a man must understand falsehood in himself, the constant incessant lies he tells himself.
The actions of men are the best interpreters of their thoughts.
Strong minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, weak minds discuss people.
Ego is a structure that is erected by a neurotic individual who is a member of a neurotic culture against the facts of the matter. And culture, which we put on like an overcoat, is the collectivized consensus about what sort of neurotic behaviors are acceptable.
When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Do you see the real you, or what you have been conditioned to believe is you? The two are so, so different. One is an infinite consciousness capable of being and creating whatever it chooses, the other is an illusion imprisoned by its own perceived and programmed limitations.
This paradigm shift involves the integration of the dark sides of the ego personality. It involves seeing ourselves wholistically and completely, and it involves a study of why the ego has irrational ideas about itself and the world. The ego's birth was traumatic. It is nothing less than the ghost that has arisen from the grave of the self. Moreover, the ego came into existence recently; it became the center of a fragmented consciousness. Before the birth of the ego, men enjoyed a consciousness that was whole. This level of awareness is no longer available to most human beings. Indeed, the ego can never comprehend the magnitude of the consciousness that existed before its dominion. That state of awareness still exists within us, and is referred to as the unconscious. The unconscious contains psychic personalities, referred to as archetypes. These personalities, so to speak, are regarded by the ego as external objects. They are regarded in the same way as wordly objects — that is, the ego does not regard the excluded content or archetypes as part of itself. This is because the ego is extremely defensive; so much so, that it has banished vitally important aspects of its own nature.
First of all, I think it is important to understand that the ego is a fragmented, fear-filled distortion of our soul's energy. This fragmented part of our soul (the ego) has separated itself from the LIGHT of our higher awareness/higher self. The ego was created when we decided as a group consciousness to accept the "idea" of perceived separation from God, so we could learn through the use of our FREE WILL. This perceived separation from God/Goddess created fear, and a part of our divine energy broke away from the center/truth of our being.
It takes a little while for people that have been trained to only look at the physical, to break away from that and include the non-physical energy as well, because a high degree of focus on the physical reality creates an ego structure, that, if it is removed from the physical reality, panics, because it thinks that physical reality is the only place that exists, and if all of a sudden you start forcing the ego structure that has been physically focused to look at non-physical reality, it thinks it's dying, because it doesn't understand that non-physical reality is just as "real" as physical reality. That is the reluctance that you are experiencing in your society.
Terence McKenna - The Ego, The Outsider & Psychedelics
[Published on Apr 11, 2014] Terence McKenna comments on the causes of our "hideous plunge into dysfunctionality".
Bashar - Ego Negotiation 101 [part 1]
How to negotiate with the ego structure/construct.
Bashar Archives :: A Contract with The Ego
[Published on Dec 12, 2014] This clip is from the session "Dialogues with the Future Self".
Going to the Heart of an Emotion
Nonduality teacher Rupert Spira defines the fictional character that is the ego.
How Ego Comes Through The Back Door - Teal Swan
Ego is the term we use for the separate identity and the separate identity has one prerogative; survival. Because the ego thinks that its survival is at stake, the ego has become intelligent. It is intelligent enough to know that sometimes a full frontal approach is not the best course of action. It is smart enough to know that sometimes the best choice is to come in the back door.
In this episode, Teal explains how ego comes in the back door. She explains that ego has taken advantage of the truth that "we create our own reality" by isolating us.
Ego or Intuition? How do I know whether it's my true self talking or my ego talking? - Teal Swan
What is the difference between Ego and the True Self? How do I know which one I'm receiving information from and how do I strengthen my connection with the true self instead of ego?
In response to this question, Teal explains that the true self is the eternal, incorporeal part of you. In other words, it is the source energy which is expressing itself temporarily as the you that you know in this one life. It is void of separation and therefore exists in the perspective of oneness.
The Ego is the "I". In other words, the temporary identity which the source self is "practicing" in this lifetime... which is separate from "other".
Teal goes on to explain that as a species, we have become entranced by the physical senses and lost connection with our greater self because of the density of form. And due to this, the ego began to take on a role for which it was not suited. It began to run the whole show. Because of this, the tool of ego is now a tool which controls the wielder.
Teal then explains how one goes about differentiating the voice of the ego from the voice of the true self (intuition). She finishes up by providing some suggestions about how one could go about strengthening the connection with the true self and giving power to the true self so that Ego is a tool which we control instead of the other way around.
The End of the Ego ~ The Awakening by Eckhart Tolle
Eckhart Tolle on how thought forms, which make up ego, can be thought of as entities.